To Love and To Cherish

Larry and JoAnn were an ordinary couple. They lived in an ordinary house on an ordinary street. Like other ordinary couples they struggled to make ends meet and to do the right things for their children. They were ordinary in another way. They had their squabbles. Much of their conversation concerned what was wrong in their marriage and who was to blame. Until one day. A most extraordinary event took place.

“You know, JoAnn, I’ve got a magic chest of drawers. Every time I open them they are full of socks and underwear,” Larry said. “I want to thank you for filling them all these years.” JoAnn stared at her husband over the top of her spectacles. “What do you want, Larry?”

“Nothing. I just want you to know I appreciate those magic drawers.” This wasn’t the first time Larry had done something odd, so JoAnn pushed the incident out of her mind until a few days later. “JoAnn, thank you for recording so many correct check numbers in the ledger this month. You put down the right number 15 out of 16 times. That’s a record.”

Disbelieving what she had heard, JoAnn looked up from her mending. “Larry, you’re always complaining about my recording the wrong check numbers. Why stop now?”

“No reason. I just wanted you to know I appreciate the effort you’re making.” Nevertheless, the next day when JoAnn wrote a check at the grocery store, she glanced at her checkbook to confirm that she had recorded it right. “Why do I suddenly care about those dumb check numbers?”, she asked herself.

She tried to disregard the incident, but Larry’s strange behavior intensified. “JoAnn, that was a great dinner,” he said one evening. “I appreciate all your effort. Why, in the past 15 years I figure you’ve fixed over 14,000 meals for me and the kids.” Then, “Gee, JoAnn, the house looks spiffy. You’ve really worked hard to get it looking so good.” And even, ”Thanks, JoAnn, for just being you. I really enjoy your company. I’m so glad God me you.”

JoAnn was growing worried. “Where’s the sarcasm, the criticism?” she wondered. Her fears that something peculiar was happening to her husband were confirmed by 16-year-old Shelly, who complained, “Dad’s gone bonkers, Mom. He just told me I looked nice. With all this makeup and these sloppy clothes, he still said it. That’s not Dad, Mom. What’s wrong with him?”

Whatever was wrong, Larry didn’t get over it. Day in and day out he continued to affirm JoAnn and the kids. Over the weeks, JoAnn grew more used to his unusual behavior, and occasionally even gave him a grudging “thank you.” She prided herself in taking it all in stride, until one day something so peculiar happened she became completely overwhelmed.

“I want you to take a break,” Larry said. “I am going to do the dishes. So please take your hands off that frying pan and leave the kitchen.” After a long, long pause, “Thank you, Larry. Thank you very much!” JoAnn’s step was now a little lighter, her self-confidence higher, and once in a while she hummed. She didn’t seem to experience blue moods anymore. She rather liked Larry’s new behavior.

That would be the end of the story except one day another most extraordinary event took place. This time it was JoAnn who spoke. “Larry,” she said, “I want to thank you for going to work and providing for us all these years. I don’t think I’ve ever told you how much I appreciate it.”

Larry has never revealed the reason for his dramatic change of behavior no matter how hard JoAnn has pushed for an answer, and so it will likely remain one of life’s mysteries. But it’s one I am thankful to live with. You see, I am JoAnn.

(Condensed From Deseret News, February 10, 1985)